Here are 14 signs your partner could be cheating on you.
Change in routineAll of a sudden, their working days are longer, maybe they even have to travel, so they’re away overnight for a couple of days at a time, or even longer. Especially when this is coupled with some of the other signs, these are clear pointers that they are probably playing away. The same holds true of sudden, increased lifestyle expenses (drinks, meals, hotels) that don’t include you.
Not being presentEven when they’re physically present, their mind is wandering in their own world; they’re not really there with you.
Airplane mode on the phone is always onThat way you can’t see incoming texts when you ask to use their phone, or it isn’t buzzing every few minutes from new Snapchats or Whatapps.
More effort put into their appearanceWhether that means dressing better, putting more effort in at the gym, or a significant change to their beauty/grooming routine, these are all smalls signs your partner could be cheating. Showering before coming to bed, which sometimes signifies guilt or a desire to avoid detection of the scent of a lover, is another clue.
They get paranoidSmiled to long at the waiter, gave a cashier too much of your time and your partner gets extremely irritable about it? If this never used to bother them, now that they’re having an affair, it’s not so far-fetched that you could too so they get paranoid that you might, in fact, be doing so.
They become nervous and stressedMany people experience atypical bouts of depression and anxiety as the guilt of the affair, and the stress of keeping such a huge secret takes a visible toll. Symptoms might include insomnia, disinterest in eating or an unshakeable miserable and down mood.
They’re suddenly a gift giverA “just because” spa gift card or a new shirt – completely unrelated to a birthday, anniversary, or work promotion—could be a clue that your partner is feeling guilty about something and trying to compensate.
They leave the room to take callsIf you ask whom called or texted them, do they always tell you “It’s nobody?” These are also important signals, which show that your other half has something to hide.
They have new hobbies that exclude youOf course, it’s wonderful if a partner takes on a new hobby, especially one that contributes to their health. But there are two causes for concern. First, if they appear to dive into a hobby out of the blue, rather than talking about the hobby a lot or easing slowly into it. And second, if they devote an unusual amount of hours or efforts to it. For example, a person who suddenly begins running every night for stretches as long as three hours. One way to gauge the truth is to tell your partner that you support their hobby and it would be nice to follow along on their progress. Then, think about how a person who really is devoted to running would respond. They would likely be proud to share the route they’re mapping out or the time they’re trying to beat. If your partner insists on being vague, that could be a concern.
Their friends act differently towards youHave their friends begun acting differently around you? When you casually talk to them, do they seem anxious, nervous, or eager to leave? They probably know something you don’t know.
They’re constantly picking fightsDoing this gives them a reason to get mad and storm out of the house and thus the opportunity to meet a lover. A cheater may also do this because of mixed emotions they are feeling about betraying you.
New phrases and interestsIf they’re spending enough time with their lover they’re going to pick up some of their expressions and interests.
They no longer want you to do their washingIf they’re trying to get you from touching their dirty clothes chances are they have evidence of cheating in their pockets or on their clothes. It’s much safer for someone who’s cheating to handle their own washing. Pay attention to spouses who act like they’re doing you a favour, but it’s more about keeping a secret.
The relationship has turned sexlessOf course, this can mean many things, but one of them is cheating. Especially if your partner is pulling away from you. The sex could be dwindling due to a myriad of reasons, but it’s important that you can talk about it in your relationship. Let them know you’ve noticed a change, and see if they want to do anything about it.
You might think it’s easier to turn a blind eye, especially when there are kids involved, but knowing these signs of a cheating partner can cause you a lot less pain and distress down the line.